When we are close to our unique life stories, we are also close to our unique destiny.
Fate has a hand here
Fate is what gives us the parameters and limitations of our life - as if they were agreed before we were born. Our destiny is then honed and carved from the transformation of those limited circumstances. But first we must fully accept and line ourselves up with the limitations we agreed to have placed upon us.
When we review our life experiences and craft them into stories, we can’t help but turn and face our fate. As we learn to tell the stories we have lived, we open ourselves to seeing what unique freedoms and wisdoms we collected along the way.
Thinking back helps us to think forward.
In the five years of writing my autobiography Fatherless I untangled and pieced back together the bigger picture of my early life. In that process, one of the things I remembered was my persistence with jigsaws as a youngster. I completed one and was immediately hungry to expand to a more difficult and larger one. It’s the same process when I coach - being alongside people finding their life cornerstones, putting the fragmented pieces together to reveal a more vibrant identity and a larger life picture.
An underpinning of freedom
I also remember my yearning to be free of the orphanages and their restrictive chains. I can see how my institutional upbringing pressed down on my individual expression. Yet at the same time it impressed on me the value of searching, learning and building resources that were beyond any institutional world view. This so that my ‘unbelonging world’ became a ‘belonging world’. This underpinned my individual expression so I could do that for others. Its available to all.
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